If you haven’t figured out already I’m a bit of a shy person. Yeah Right!
HA ha, bet you never saw that picture of me before. Well you’re not alone, no one has.
So you’ve noticed I’ve been posting things hair and within those posts I keep referencing myself, have you?!. Well, I am a NATURAL. Yes, all my body parts are natural but in this instance I’m talking about my hair. I no longer put a chemical relaxer in my hair. I have been apart of the natural hair community for almost officially 3 years now. When I started on this journey I thought it would be cool to document it through blogging and YouTube. But then I stopped. One reason because I didn’t think I had much to share since I was just starting out and didn’t know what I was doing. The second reason was the shy thing, I would make these videos and keep them to myself, I mean yes I shared them on my old YouTube channel gained a following but still felt like an amateur which I guess I really was. Then there was the equipment, video quality, etcetera, etc. Fast Forwarding to the here and now. I have the tools, the knowledge the equipment and skills to make some bad ass (excuse me french) video. And we’re going to start from the beginning, if you don’t mind.
Here’s the history:
The transition: (pictured above is during the transition, after the second mini chop I did)
Ladies with relaxed hair is just a beautiful as ladies with natural hair. It’s about the upkeep. Relaxed hair can be healthy as long as it’s taken care of and not taken for granted. Just like people with relaxers, people with natural hair can experience breakage, split end, heat damage, and chemical damage (for those who like to dye their natural hair). Everyone has to do what’s right for them.
I will admit I did like my relaxed hair, it was healthy and long at one point. More often than not I didn’t take care of my hair which resulted in some bad, bad breakage issues and I began to strongly dislike my hair, because of my own doing.
When I made the decision to transition I was at a time in my life where I needed things to be very simple and I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with myself, in life. When I thought about relaxing my hair it was like another daunting task, I already didn’t think that my hair was where it should be and I didn’t really have the funds to purchase the relaxer, (I self relaxed my hair since I was 12). One day I found the YouTube natural hair community. I saw one video about a girl transitioning, then another and another. So as of December of 2009 I made the decision to transition. I was determined to go the long haul and be a long-term transitioner.
After the CHOP: (both pictures above are after the big chop right after I took out a protective style of kinky twists I worn)
So I just mentioned, When I first started I was determined to be a long-term transitioner, I had a calendar all planned out and I was on a roll. Come six months down the road, I decided that I was ready to just chop it all off and get use to working with on texture of my natural. So I did it. I BIG CHOPPED (see picture captioned at the top) June 2010. My reaction, was ‘WOW’, I’ve never seen myself with such short hair and I felt a bit naked. Then I was like what am I going to do with it. Other’s reactions, well they were and still are very supportive.
I thankfully haven’t had any negative comments. It’s all about encouragement and the most encouraging of the bunch is my sister, whom has relaxed hair. There was a point when I hit month four of my transition, I was so ready to chop all my hair off, as soon as I hit some tangles in my hair, she reminded me that, “I knew this could happen, so I needed to just be patient, tangles can come out, just relax…” So I did. Thanks Big SIS!
Now: (top picture just after the on year mark. below picture is from December 2012)
I love my hair and it seems to be the first thing people notice when they meet me and I’m okay with that. I think is should give her a name, since it has its own personality, ha ha. My hair has flourished since December 2009 and I have never looked back not once. My hair has grown so much. I look forward to longer and even strong hair that I already have.
Here’s a few places you can find me and my hair shenanigans:
Of course, Instagram
By the way is anyone on VINE?? I signed up to give it a whirl so find me @lovecayferg there as well.
I guess this is it for now if you have any questions please feel free to contact me. Thanks as always for sticking around. Talk to you guys later!
Love, cay ferg